Remind your partner (and yourself) that you appreciate them.
When men don’t feel connected or appreciated by their wives, they are vulnerable to the advances of any attractive woman who casts a lustful glance their way.
Say thank you for the little things.
Playing tit for tat is childish and will do nothing but chip away at the trust and connection you’ve built with your spouse.
If you are so inclined, keep score of all the positive things your partner does in a day — and then thank them.
Practice honesty, even when you’re ashamed.
If you have maxed out a credit card or two and find yourself hiding the bills each month, you can bet it’s going to come back to bite you.
And it will be a tough road gaining back your spouse’s trust if you’ve lied about overspending.
Take care of your appearance.
With many years and a few kids under your belt, it’s easy to let your appearance slide. Think about when you first met your partner.
Would you have walked around in stained sweatpants and without brushing your teeth? My guess is no.
At least pay your spouse the same courtesy you do your friends by fixing yourself up for him or her every once in awhile.
Watch your words.
“You always…” or “You never…” If you start a sentence with these words your mate is certain to shut down or start a fight. Think about what you really mean to say — and then say that instead.
Relish the silence.
Not every slight must be addressed. Practice letting go as much as you can. Forgive more. Forget more. And once in a while, remind yourself of why you married this person. Focus on those reasons and let stuff pass without mention.
You have a bad day at the office and come home and take it out on your mate. Ask yourself, “What can I do today to make my partner happy?” And mean it. Doesn’t it make more sense to put your best face on for someone you love?